Teen issues P1 : Being a loner

               Being a loner doesn't mean that you don't have any friends or you are an unfriendly person. Being a loner is enjoying your own company and preferring to be alone by choice. It also doesn't mean you have social interaction problems or you are 'depressed'. People understand loner the wrong way. They think we have personal issues and probably stressed about it whenever we prefer to be alone. Honestly, being in a crowded place is way more stressful. 

               Having a comfort zone means preferring to be the real self and real version of yourselves to a certain circle of people. But the more you express you having a certain zone, the more people try to expand the zone. There are the rare ones who understand and give us space and time to cooperate and those are the ones who get the entry pass to the reliable comfort zone of us loners. Having one good friend is really enough. You can spill your heart out to them without any hesitation and be yourself to only that particular person. Staying away from conflicts or any hint of disagreement is one of the features of us loners. And the other is; we push people away and sink in our loneliness feeling sorry for ourselves. This feature is the one I hate the most. 

               Socializing is out of question. Hell, sometimes we even run away from people within our comfort zone. The thing is, we are really secure being alone. It is peaceful and it gives us enough energy to get out of our heads and return to reality. I know this because I am this. Sometimes it's really hard for us to get back to reality and actually face everything and everyone. Especially when we are teenagers. It is a really sensitive age. I don't know about any other age because I am only a teenager myself. Even little things pressurize us and to other teenagers reading this, I know you get it. But it's okay, because we get over it really quickly sometimes and we have the courage to self motivate ourselves. 

                 Guilt of ditching our loved ones in order to spend our 'me time' a little longer is also one of our traits. But we find a way to make up for it once we get enough energy to socialize again. Memes make us happier than anything else in the world. This is a weird era that we live in. Being a loner isn't a bad thing. Being an introvert isn't a bad thing. Preferring to choose yourself before others isn't a bad thing. Feeling insecure about literally everything isn't a bad thing either. Being all those things isn't selfish and even if it is; being selfish isn't a bad thing. We are only humans. It is part of our nature to learn and grow. To realize and change. To have uncontrollable emotions. All we need to do is accept it and move on. 

Thank you for reading.😊